Lesson 2: Design Your Dream Relationship
Zodiac Signs in the Love Houses
Another way to read the energy of your houses is to see what zodiac signs are encompassed within them. You may have 2-3 zodiac signs inhabiting each love house, which means you can work with those energies to set the mood, arouse and lock down that long-term loving.
Example: Victoria Beckham
Spice Girl turned supermum turned fashion designer, Victoria Beckham, is yet another example of why there's no need to fret about empty (or fairly unpopulated) love houses. She only has one planet in any of the three—provocateur Uranus in her 5th house. Yet, the Aries multi-hyphenate has churned up envy over the years as half of a celebrity power couple. Her marriage to soccer legend—and scorching hot Taurus—David Beckham has lasted nearly two decades and produced four adorable children.
5th House: Libra, Scorpio and Sagittarius
Libra, Scorpio and Sagittarius all occupy Beckham's 5th house of romance. Scorpio is "intercepted," meaning the entire zodiac sign is encompassed in the house, while there is segment of Libra and Sagittarius on each of the house's cusps (outer edges). With two of the most marriage-minded signs (Libra and Scorpio) in her 5th, casual dating was probably never Victoria's cup of Earl Grey. The sporty influence of Sagittarius in her 5th house may be what drew her to the athlete. She wed the footballer within a year of their first meeting in a ceremony that included two matching outfit changes and gold thrones for each of them. (We blame the Libra for this...)
7th House: Capricorn
Ambitious, image-conscious Capricorn fills Victoria Beckham's 7th house. The oft-photographed pair of Posh and Becks have retained their "power couple" status on both sides of the pond, and red carpets everywhere. With family-oriented Capricorn filling this house, the Beckhams are known for being devoted parents to their Instagram-perfect brood. They are also ultra-supportive of each other's careers, sitting in front rows for one another from football fields to Fashion Week premiers.
8th House: Capricorn & Aquarius
The dVB designer's erotic 8th house is occupied by two of the more public zodiac signs—a sliver of Capricorn and a larger wedge of Aquarius. There is undeniable heat in many of the Beckham's photos, especially their stint as underwear models for a 2009 Emporio Armani campaign. With these somewhat detached signs governing her house of desire, she had the fortitude required to pledge "'til death do us part" to one of the most sought-after sex symbols of the 90s and aughts. With persevering Capricorn and rational Aquarius in this house, she even remained committed through his challenging struggles with obsessive compulsive disorder and tabloid-rumored affair, telling The Independent, "No one said marriage was going to be easy."
Exercise: Zodiac Signs in The Love Houses
Look at your Love Houses. What zodiac sign(s) are inhabiting them? How can you use all of those energies to manifest a mate or keep the fires burning? If you have multiple signs in your love houses, the challenge may be figuring out how to balance the different energies that are occupying it. Perhaps you need to dial up the vibes of one of the zodiac signs—or turn it down so it doesn't overwhelm you.
My 5th house of romance contains these zodiac signs: _________________________________________
My 7th house of commitment contains these zodiac signs: _______________________________________
My 8th house of sex and merging contains these zodiac signs: ____________________________________
ZODIAC SIGN | IF THIS SIGN IS IN YOUR LOVE HOUSE (5, 7, 8) |
|---|---|
Aries | You are passionate, immediate and fall in (and out of) love quickly. You may have many short-term relationships before you "settle down" and even then, you need adventure and excitement to remain interested. You want your partner's undivided attention, and it wouldn't hurt if they thought you walked on water. Retaining a semblance of independence is a must! |
Taurus | Turn on those slow jams. Unhurried sensual moments are a must for getting you in the mood. You love to stop and smell the roses with your dates—and eventually share a comfortable, beautiful home life together. Honoring traditions and having strong family ties is part of the package in love. Since you don't do well with grey areas or scarcity, shared values and a partner with a solid work ethic are a must. |
Gemini | Welcome to the communication station! From flirty texts to spicy pillow talk to all-night, philosophical conversations about life, the wooing is in the words for you! Gemini rules mobile devices and dating apps were made for you. Friendship is an essential component of romantic relationships: You want a BFF and a lover in one. Socializing as a pair is also a plus, but you need equal amounts of closeness and space or things can get suffocating. Variety is the spice of your life, whether you're dating many people or filling your shared calendar with endless cultural activities and playdates. |
Cancer | When it comes to love, you can be a total mushball, but with your tender heart, you aren't quick to reveal your softer side. You need to feel safe opening up and know that your emotions will be heard, honored and respected. Family-oriented and nurturing, you might even play the caretaker role for your partner at time. Your ideal romantic scenario involves domestic bliss, bonding for holiday meals, and nesting with your boo during your downtime. Being near water or on the beach will get you in the mood for amour. |
Leo | Your love stories can be colorful and dramatic—but hey, you wouldn't have it any other way. Dressing up for glamorous dates, sharing luxury experiences and bonding creatively are a few of your favorite things. You need lots of praise, attention and verbal reassurance from your dates and mates! Leo is the sign of fertility and you may long for children, or to co-create something artistic with a partner. As a partner you are noble, generous and protective. You love to lavish your love interests with gifts—and receive them in return! |
Virgo | "Acts of service," could be your main love language. (A nod to Gary Chapman's, "The 5 Love Languages.) You love to champion your partner and feel needed and helpful. You have a practical outlook on love and enjoy bonding over simple day-to-day routines like sipping morning coffee or going for evening walks. You bring an earthy sensuality to relationships, connecting dates and mates to self-care and good health. Side-by-side massages and green smoothie toasts, anyone? |
Libra | You're a romantic idealist who longs for a commitment. Relationships can get serious quickly—you may have been fantasizing about your wedding since you were a child. You need a partner who balances you out—opposites attract! You love to shower each other with affection and are a sucker for the sweet (and yes, sappy) gestures. A dozen roses, tickets to a glamorous party or show, fancy meals and vacations: These are the way to your heart! |
Scorpio | The word "casual" is not in your love lexicon. When you're into someone, you play for keeps. You want soul-merging, spiritual bonding and a connection that feels eternal. A little intense? Sure, but this placement is one of the most erotically charged in the zodiac. You may struggle with jealousy and control, or have difficulty being vulnerable. Trust and lust go hand in hand—you need to share your secrets and feelings without being judged. |
Sagittarius | You are independent and adventurous in the game of love. People who are worldly, well-traveled and wise turn you on—and you may feel most comfortable in a cross-cultural relationship or love to travel with your mate. You need relationships to feel open and expansive with lots of room for growth. Studying or even starting a business together with your S.O. could be a fulfilling undertaking. |
Capricorn | Power couple fantasies dancing through your head? You are attracted to ambition and people with goals—and you probably have a list of romantic milestones that you want to meet. Love operates on traditional principles for you: structure, consistency and loyalty are a must. You feel compelled to provide for the one you love and may struggle, at times, with receiving the same in return. You play the long-game, preferring to "mate for life," even if that means persevering through the tough times and standing by your S.O. |
Aquarius | You're unconventional and open-minded: Love is the greatest experiment you'll ever undertake! You are the opposite of possessive and may prefer to have multiple partners or a non-traditional relationship (separate residences, never getting officially married, e.g.). When love gets too predictable, you may become a romantic rebel without a cause. Warning: This disturbance to the field can kill trust and even become destructive to long-term partnerships. You may be attracted to people who "need space" or even push you away. Sharing a friend group or community can help you stay engaged for the long term. |
Pisces | You're a hopeless romantic and a dreamer—love must feel like a sweet escape for you. Someone who can sweep you off your feet or introduce you to a dazzling new world will always win points. Boundaries are a blurry thing for you, however—Pisces is the sign of fantasy and illusion. You may vault your love interests up on a pedestal, only to be disappointed when reality settles in. (Translation: You realize you're dealing with a beautifully flawed human.) A strong spiritual and creative connection is a must. You may be attracted to artistic and poetic types—but beware the "rescue missions," codependent connections, or people who don't appreciate your compassionate nature. |