Lesson 2: Design Your Dream Relationship

8th House


How deep is your love? The 8th house is the realm of soul-merging—along with the commingling of other resources, such as finances and property. Much like Scorpio, the eighth zodiac sign, this is the domain of sacred sexuality. How do you stoke your erotic desires, where should gravitate when you're craving a sexy atmosphere? The eighth house also reveals where you might be jealous, controlling or possessive; your sexual style, your approach to emotional intimacy, trust issues. Financially, it can reveal what you like to invest in as a couple or splurge on together.

I have these planets in my 8th House:



Exercise: Time to journal about sex and soul merging! (Nothing light and fluffy here, folks.) Take a look at the information in the table below, and reflect in your journal or on the printable worksheets provided with this lesson. Are there any planets in your 8th house, and if so, how do their energies combine? What does this tell you about your approach to all things erotic and intimate? 

My sexual and bonding style is:


PLANET

WHERE AND HOW YOU DO ROMANCE

Sun

Showy and flamboyant—sex is performance art. Install mirrors on the ceiling (and maybe a camera for private footage if we both consent). There will be tons of PDA and daring erotic moves. Being the hottest couple in the room makes my mojo rise!

Moon

Intimate, private and sentimental. Lock the doors and draw the drapes if you want to get freaky—and make sure the bed is super comfortable, and big enough to eat breakfast in after getting it on. I cannot be rushed in or out of bed. Cuddling is foreplay, and I might even get a little emotional during sex.

Mercury

Playful and communicative. Talking about sex is one of my favorite things, and I want to hear all your naughty tales. Keep your phone close because I'll be sexting you throughout the day—hey, it's foreplay for the even hotter pillow talk we'll share when we're together next! Variety is the spice of my sex life: I love to role play (nurse and surgeon, anyone?) or find naughty little places to hook up while I'm out on dates. Read me some erotica or let's watch it together in bed.

Venus

Decadent and luxurious, hitting all the senses. I need flattering lighting, beautiful scents, soft bedding and the finest massage oils.  I like to spoil my partner in bed and be spoiled in return. I hate to be rushed. Don't even think about asking me to have a quickie—or forgetting to compliment my well-chosen lingerie.

Mars

Competitive, verging on sport! Give me some space and activate the chase. I get turned on by the thrill of a "challenge" and want to wow you with my sexual prowess. When I take great care of myself, I have a high sex drive. Sometimes I even like it a couple times a day. Getting physical together, with dancing or working out, can be foreplay.

Jupiter

Wild and adventurous! I'm a free spirit who loves to explore and try new things, from locations to positions to sexual partners. The more might even be the merrier in my bedroom, whether hosting "guest stars" or role playing with costumes. Traveling is a turn-on and I've had my share of vacation flings...or at least flirtations...with a hottie in every port I visit. I love to read—and possibly take workshops—about having great sex. 

Saturn

Slow and strong. I might take a while to warm up (or even lure into the bedroom, I'm so busy), but once I'm there, I'll make it last all night long. Can you make me give up control—or even dominate me? Playing with power dynamics (both ways) can be the biggest turn-on...and I might even tie you up if you ask me nicely.

Uranus

Futuristic and experimental. I love to try out new positions and watch indie erotica together (perhaps with some VR thrown in). I have a treasure trove of toys and enjoy high-minded erotic experiences like tantra, orgasmic massage (OM-ing) or controlling my release to build up energy in the body. A variety of partners—perhaps all at the same time—may be something I experiment with in life. 

Neptune

Fantasy-fueled! Sex is a transcendent experience for me. I need to totally surrender; to escape into the sensual (and spiritual!) dimension where there are no words, only feelings and forms. (Please don't bring me back down to earth with dirty talk when I'm in the zone.) I'm not a total "starfish" though. When it's your turn, serving you makes me hot. There are few things I won't do in bed. Bring on the fetishes and kink. Head's up: I may need a reminder to discuss boundaries and choose safe words before we start to play.

Pluto

Mysterious and intense. Don't you dare get complacent: I need tangible proof that I turn you on—for eternity, and more than anyone else on the entire planet. (Don't worry, I'll make sure to keep it sexy through the years.) Let's sneak into that dark corner or DJ booth. I love the thrill of almost getting caught—and I've worn an easy-access outfit for the occasion. I may have control issues in bed: On the one hand, I want to totally let go and surrender, but don't make me feel trapped or restricted or you'll feel the wrath. If you're going to break out the handcuffs, that's cool. Just know that you're more likely to be wearing them than me. 

Empty House

Any time, any place? You may be an erotic novel waiting to be written—or a sexual variety show with stories that would make a madam blush! There are so many scenarios and locations that can turn you on. The fun part is that you get to try them all. Make sure you pay enough attention to your erotic needs since they might not occur as "urgent" to you. Reading literature, watching sexy movies, taking workshops—these are all things that can stimulate your sexual nature.

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