Lesson 2: Design Your Dream Relationship
7th House

What's your commitment style? The 7th house is the realm of real deal relationships; the cosmic couple bubble, if you will. This domain governs everything that happens when two people become a legitimate pair. This house can reveal how collaborate with your partner, your sharing style, what you need to feel balanced in relationships, and what type of wedding you'll have—if you want to be married at all! This house has similar characteristics to Libra, the seventh sign of the zodiac, which is all about finding harmonious equilibrium between two forces.
I have these planets in my 7th House:
Exercise: Review the information in the table below, and get back to your journal (or the printable worksheets provided with this lesson). Ruminate on the planets—or lack of planets—in your 7th House. What does this tell you about your approach to commitment? How do you "do" relationships when you have decided to make them exclusive?
My approach to commitment is:
PLANET | WHERE AND HOW YOU DO ROMANCE |
|---|---|
Sun | Bold and dashing! I like to get exclusive quickly. If I'm into you, I want everyone to know it. Don't even think about treating me like your best kept secret! You need to shout our relationship from the rooftops (and your social media profiles). Let's be each other's biggest champions and help one another shine. |
Moon | Emotionally charged: I can get pretty sentimental about relationships and I want to create a love story that's worth telling to the grandkids. Anniversaries, holidays and other special occasions are always a big deal to me. I like to nurture my partners, create a comfortable home together, connect our families—and maybe create our own together one day. I need lots of privacy, both for myself and for the two of us. |
Mercury | Hot and cold: While I love having a partner to be my playmate and sounding board, I get restless (and a little claustrophobic) about the notion of spending all my time with just one person. I need permission to have outside friendships and to be my flirty self with lots of people, even if I never cross any lines. With enough autonomy, I can bring my best self to my relationship and I won't stray. I need my partner to be open-minded and able to communicate about anything and everything. |
Venus | Ultra romantic! Love is what I live for and I don't want the fairy tale to fade away over time. I'll do everything in my power to keep the embers stoked, like planning magical dates and vacations, taking great care of my body, and keeping a peaceful atmosphere at home. I need my partner to be well-groomed and keep up with their self-care too. Physical attraction is an essential part of the equation for me. |
Mars | Fast-moving and instinctive: I've been known to race into relationships when I think I've found The One. Sometimes it works out, other times it's just temporary, but I never regret taking a chance. How will you know if you never try, right? My friends tell me that I need to slow down, but I'm not sure that's possible for me. When I'm attracted to people, I start dreaming about the happily ever after, and the next thing I know, I'm in hot pursuit, working to make that person my "other half." |
Jupiter | Liberated and adventurous: I'm not interested in becoming some amorphous "us." I'd rather support each other in becoming the most incredible individuals we can possibly be. I like it when my partner has their own life and interests—the differences are what keep things dynamic. I am thrilled to explore the world as a couple, traveling to far-away places, studying and even sharing a spiritual practice. Just don't fence me in or try to take up every minute of my independent free time. |
Saturn | Serious and devoted: I play for the long haul when it comes to relationships—I want to build with my partner and even leave a legacy behind, like a family or something else that we create as a couple. I understand that relationships are "hard work," and I'm willing to put in the time and effort it takes to have them last for a lifetime. My attitude about it is mature—I know there will be seasons for romance and other times that might be boring. The point is to stand by each other through them all. |
Uranus | Unconventional and unpredictable: I'm not interested in playing by anyone else's rules. I believe every couple has their own dynamic and gets to write the script to fit the energy that they create together as a pair. Modern love is for me: I don't necessarily need labels, but I do believe couples need clear agreements to make their partnerships work. I'll give my partner lots of autonomy and need room to cultivate my independent life path. I don't like the idea of being pinned down—I'd rather soar and explore together. |
Neptune | Idealistic and dreamy: I can be a hopeless romantic when it comes to relationships. I'm looking for a soulmate, a true love and a happily ever after scenario. Sometimes I flow so quickly into partnerships that I'm not even sure how I got that involved. But I know that I'm never stuck. When I realize someone can't live up to my ideal vision, I find a way out. I'll definitely try to make things work and I love to give myself, heart and soul, to my "other half." I can be a powerful fantasy-spinner and an amazing caretaker. The one thing I hate, however, is when things become dull and predictable! |
Pluto | Intense and all-encompassing: I give my all to my relationships and I expect the same in return. I would do anything for my partner—I'm protective and yes, a bit possessive too. Pledging undying loyalty is a must and I need lots of private, twosome time in order to feel the strength of our bond. Sexual chemistry is also a must, even during busy times when our interactions are quality over quantity. I have to be careful not to fall into the "us against the world" mindset—but if I'm being totally honest, fighting against a common enemy can bring me closer to my mate! |
Empty House | Colorful and varied: I don't necessarily have a type when it comes to relationships. I enjoy how every person I commit to can bring out a different side of my personality. I'm not necessarily a chameleon, but I can infuse myself into my love interest's life and create a vital and supportive connection. I can date an attractive "opposite" or someone who is just like me. Ideally, my S.O. will have enough common interests to help us bond and enough differentiation to keep our relationship dynamic. |